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Restoring the Right to Dream
Alcoholism, dysfunction and emotionally irresponsible parents robs children of many of their rights. The need to feel safe, to be seen, to be heard, consistency, emotional support, stability, freedom to fail safely, to feel freely and to dream. ACAs may find it “hard to have fun”, I am certainly one of those people. I realized,…
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Perfect Porcelain Girl
As a daughter of an alcoholic, at an early age I took it upon myself to “rescue” my father – when I realized that wasn’t possible and not in my control, I took what was in my control, which was to “rescue” our family name -this meant becoming perfect, of course. It didn’t help that…
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Where to start?
I can only share what has worked for me. Here are some cardinal rules that I have learned by experience (and the hard way lol!). I am speaking in the first person (not comfortable saying “hey, you do this this and this!”) When I do my “check-ins”, I used this feelings wheel from ACA. I…
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A poem about being & being me
Good morning beautiful people. This poem came from a time when I was reflecting that most of my thoughts, decisions and life revolved around my alcoholic parent. My life was in the context of them. Now that I’m in recovery, I am learning that I can make choices that are in my best interest, beyond…
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Thoughts & a poem about forgiving the me that “chose” (another) unsafe person to love
Last weekend, I wanted to make a trip to an area that would require me to drive through a town that carried a lot of baggage for me. It was the hometown of the first person I entered a relationship with in my mid-20s and a huge source of pain. It was fall and the…
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CHILD OF AN ALCOHOLIC/CHILD OF GOD
This is a source of community, reflections and information for those going through the 12 steps in the Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families as a Christian. God has wonderfully navigated this healing journey for me, and I want to share my story, in the hopes that there are pieces that may spur hope…
The Christian Adult Child 